Practice the pause

Are we really pausing ourselves? Do you ever try doing that….? 

Before Judging ……

Have you ever thrown dirty looks for a girl who is wearing a short skirt where you can see her panty lines? Or you never nodded to a friend about someone’s story of relationship or career breakdown? Yes we do right… I did it several times. Yes I have been judgmental until I start suffering from others being judgmental about me.

Being judgmental is not a behavior it’s a psychological fact that we judge others because we need to feel better about ourselves. That gives us a feeling of superiority or secureness in short run. But unfortunately in long run the feeling of that “we never good enough” create our mind a hell.

So be aware of your behavior, Start noticing the thoughts you have about others, believe in yourself because you are insanely brainy, kind, talented, friendly, strong, charming, spirited, reliable, amusing, and cool. So there is no need for you to judge others. Always put yourself in someone else's shoes you will see the world from different eye and you will learn to be empathetic and understandable. Stop gossiping and watch your language. We can make a choice that whether we are with them or we leave them without judging. When we do that we feel good we feel happy about ourselves that we want people to be as they are not as we want. Judging someone else will not ease our mine or will not feel any good. Let few people to annoy you…. because one day you will be thankful for them for making who you are…. 

Before Assuming

Making assumptions is a very common practice for most of us. It’s always a belief without a proof. Don’t go after common assumptions like money can buy you anything and world is all about us… those are nonsense. Because deep down in our heart we know we can’t buy everything we need and other than “me” there are lot more. However, in our normal day-to-day life we often don’t stop and take the time that we should to inquire about what someone else means or is trying to say. Instead of that we assume. Our selfishness leads us towards the short cuts and finally us ends up with shitty meaningless assumptions about people and everything around us. Why can’t we be patience enough for others to let themselves reveal in front of us. Your assumptions always represent your attitudes. You must not take anything for granted if you are targeting to be a great human.  According to Stephen Covey “we simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be.”  But we all know that it is not correct. So follow nothing blindly. Do or say nothing without trying to understand. Be open minded always.  Your assumptions are your doors to the world. Open it, polish it, and simply renovate it once in a while, or the darkness will remain and light won't come in.

Before Accusing

Today more than we hear “It’s not you, it's me" we hear "It's not me, it's you!". Life is always a game and we are the players. People feel stressed for variety of reasons, not only just because they fear being found out. Other than the reasons of being dishonest, cheating misusing you etc. we accuse people and everything surrounded by us for so many different reasons. Most of times we accuse people and others things when we feel guilt about ourselves not for anything else. Our actions of accusing will make others to feel confused, violated, misunderstood, unheard, guilt and many more. You need to control yourself. It’s good if you can think twice or if you can take a deep breath before splitting your anger or distress or irritation for someone else because it will prevent you from regretting later about your own actions. Why we create a chance to suffer the whole lifetime wishing we could take back our words? because  you deserve so much better.

Before React Harshly

Sometimes your intention is always very innocent but unknowingly you act very harshly for people. That is because sometimes your mouth acts faster than your brain. Becoming mindful and having self-awareness is a must for healthy life and to manage healthy relationships. Reactions always doesn’t need to be quick. Giving few extra seconds can make a big difference to your life as well as to the lives surrounded by you. Quick reactions makes others unhappy and make situations and things worse for us.

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At the end of the day all these things will make life enjoyable, peaceful and hassle free. It will make your mind free from guilt and you will be a person who unconditionally kind and lovable… You will never regret about who you are and you will feel proud about your journey….  See how wonderful is that…